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In search of "True" Love !!!!

My first ever blog. As a kid, I never thought that I had the potential to pen down anything. I wasnt shy but was low on confidence. My ability to grow as an individual only came to light when I started looking outward. I had this immense urge to speak out things which I felt. However, I felt my grip on expression of thought hugely depended on my writing ability. So, here I begin with the subject closest to me....True Love and its endless search.

One of the recent plays that I had seen at Prithvi Theatre was called 60 seconds deep. Well written by Nayantara Roy and good performances by other actor crew. My closest pal Atul Mongia was playing one of the leads too. There were many interesting & thought proving concepts explored in the play. The play is majorly about city life and monotonous things we get involved as people. All of us are constantly searching for something. In the play actors referred that thing as "it". No one knows what is "it", but are deeply immersed in the search of "it". "It" can be anything - money, fame, power, relationship, trust etc. I could instantly relate "it" to Love. And just not the Love - "It" is True Love.

The so called True Love that most of us or rather; if we have the courage to admit, all of us are looking for. Love exists. Around us - all the time. In one or the other form. There is a dearth of people in our lives who want us to shower with Love. But are we satisfied ?? May be not. As humans, we just dont give up on desires. As the famous commercial says....Yeh Dil Maange more !!! More Love, More Power, More Money and endless more component. But even if we get more love, it never quenches the thirst. All we need is "True" Love.

But, what is True Love ?? And is there a way to define it? Can it be called as unconditional love? I dont know. May be I havent ever tried to answer it myself. It used to scare me at one point in time to question the credibility of true love. Not anymore. There are no preset notions about it. Nor does it has a generic explanation. It cant be measured in a jar, nor can you feel the weight of it. Size, shape, dimensions, weight etc. are not something which can give it a realistic version. The brilliant mind has an answer to everything. So when we ask it - How do u know it is true love? The arbitrary answer is "Feel it stupid". And then u think, are u just naive or so dumb that you dont know what is the mind speaking of. You go back to the super power Heart - which sometimes rules your body. When asked the same question the mighty heart answers "Sense it idiot". And then u feel like screaming, Oh lord !!! Please give me the power to differentiate between feel and sense. I am unable to do it. Hence, true love stays undefined.

How do we reach our true love? Path - Under Construction. Will it always stay like that? May be not. It is kind of funny but true that to reach that destination, all of us need to construct our own road. And also pay a premium to get a high quality construction too. The way I define that road is - it has a toll junction wherein a payout is demanded on a regular basis to access the area. The payout can be decided prior to the construction, but there is no guarantee as to it remaining the same. I read a beautiful quote by Scott Peck in the book "The Road Less Travelled". It said that Loving someone takes an effort. So do all those notions that true love is effortless and unconditional stand null and void?? I believe that everything in this world needs an effort. Even smiling is an effort. I dont know how many muscles in your face have to be at work to do that, but definitely its an effort. And to conclude.....search of "True" Love will take a dedicated effort - in the right direction ofcourse. When you find it - cherish it, value it and reap the beauty that it brings along. Dont look hard, just look around and you will find it there !!!! May be the Love that surrounds you is the so called "True" Love.

Comments

Pallavi said…
A good starter! you sound like a nomad wandering the earth in search of it...surely the last of the shamans alive! ah well, you're at "it" stupid!
Unknown said…
What is the difference between LOVE and "TRUE" LOVE? Is TRUE LOVE for those for whom just LOVE is not enough? Is "TRUE" something that stands the test of time? If you have read "The Road Less Travelled" I am sure you know the difference between Loving and being IN LOVE. Love is joy and sadness. Love is effort but effort that brings pleasure. Smiling requires effort but if your smile inspires joy in another it brings you pleasure. Love is not hard labour, where at the end of the day all you have to show is a tired body. Love is hard work which at the end of the day makes you heart (or that space in your chest where you feel pain) fill with a warm happy feeling. If you have to look so hard to find love you lack the ability to see and feel. Love is all around you, you come across love everyday. Love is in the eyes of your friend who is happy to see you, love is in the call of a relative who cooks your favourite meal. Who cares if it is true or not. If it is here if it is now, take it, enjoy it. You never know when that person will be gone forever and you will lose what you had. Try to value the gifts you get not by how much you value it but by how much the person giving it to you did.We are all limited by our capacity to accept love. We feel that if we accept love in our lives we will be asked to pay a price. Maybe you will, may be you won't, but will you forgo love because you coudn't afford it? So maybe our ability to find love, true or otherwise, is limited by our ability to give love in return. Learn to give love and love will come to you and when it does don't spend a moment worrying about its veracity. Open your mind and accept it and try to return it to the best of your ability. And know that the object of your love is flawed as are you and every other human being around you.
Unknown said…
Good Work !!! Keep it up. Waiting for some more blogs. Ye Dil maange more.
Unknown said…
i dont know much about love now...but earlier i used to think that i was truly and madly in love with my daughter's biological father...until he left me 2 months pregnant...all by myself...after 7 months when i first saw the paciferous face of my newly born daughter..i knew what love really meant...
Unknown said…
Dear Baljeet
Welcome to the blog world.

A glimpse of the within exemplified on a not so anonymous and a not so private platform. Yet it is courageous to share our innermost. That is what artists struggle to achieve. To share a very deep urge thats waiting to be expressed and shared, and it does invoke feelings and thoughts in its audience.

We are all on some form of journey and it would rather be boring if we reached our destination too soon. For its the journey that exhilirates. May you find your path and enjoy your exploration to a new inner world...
Swati said…
Congrats on mustering the courage to pen (rather 'type in') down ur thoughts for everyone to read...im still tryin to do the same for quite sometime...

This is one topic on which one's opinion keeps changing with time & experience....so keep blogging on the topic as u see ur thoughts evolving. Hope we all reach the state that Sharmila has mentioned for eternal happiness.

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