Why men can't make up their mind on commitment

One of the facts that I believe is, to make your blog readable - put an interesting tagline :-)

By now I already have you interested in reading this (if you are a member of my opposite sex, though not essentially) or even if you are an animal of my male kingdom; you might just find this a worthy post to go through.

Men !!! We are loved and hated for strange reasons. Reasons unknown to us. It makes me wonder, why would i be liked even if i grow a moustache?? Is'nt it a hygience factor that you look clean rather than choosing hair growth on your face. But some women admire men with facial hair. Fair enough !! Life is a matter of choices and I don't have a right to object on anyone's personal agenda. Coming back to the point - sometimes we men are hated even for the silliest reasons like we did'nt call up to inform where are we straying late night. Hello, do we have a life? Ofcourse, I am not targetting the whole women fraternity. Its the agony of men that I am potraying. Often, we are misunderstood for the most simple expression of thought. And strangely, we get away with the biggest of blunders too.


Commitment !!! I am glad the word 'phobia' was discovered. Had it not been invented, it would'nt have made sense of the word commitment for men. Now, its complete in its form since the better and important half is added. Yes, men have a commitment-phobia. They love the idea of falling in love. Getting attached in a relationship, going out on long drives, taking their lady to shop around and empty their wallets and moreover even call their dog as their best friend. But why are they scared of commiting in the same relationship? Is it a capital punishment? There is no reason why they need to dread of the fact in being together with someone for a lifetime. Is'nt that the reason why they ever thought of looking out for a soul mate? She has arrived now so what is stopping them?


Women love to lead by examples. They never ask men to be committed unless they can. Somehow men dont relate to this fact. Call it sheer ignorance or lack of dependency that male species have in context to this. On the other hand, men go more by instincts then by logic. The logic says that she is truly in love with them, but the instincts say they are a second priority to the parenthood she boasts of. Whereas in case of women logic & instinct goes hand in hand and hence they are in a relationship - the committed one ofcourse !!! The ground work on this mega structure called relationship is completed when the woman lays the foundation stone of unconditional trust. Let's name it the blind trust. The plinth is a combination of love and care that they shower and the final reinforcement is the understanding that is demonstrated throughout the construction. So why does it comes falling like a pack of cards one fine day? Simple, yet complex; men can't make up their mind on commitment.


Most men I have come across have this unlimited passion towards their so called "personal space". She was getting all over me, I was getting suffocated, I wish she could understand how overburdened I felt etc. are men's favourite lines after a break-up. This is the same lady love they are talking about who once showed them this whole new world of being together as one soul and two bodies. Forget the body, even its shadow suffocates them now. The mere fact that women think that men are liars and untrustworthy has developed over experience.


So you think men are stupid because they are isolating themselves of the greatest joy of being committed to their companion for a lifetime? Not really. There is an unnerving thought process that the male species go through during their mid 20's and early 30's. As I would like to quote that " Things are crystal clear in a very opaque way" during that period. Evolution is a constant process but probably a man actually starts evolving at this time. The late teens to mid 20's is also an evolution process - but only for discovering the man inside a boy. The think tank starts working and the objectivity cap is worn now. This is when men start realizing their goals in personal and professional lives. Foolish men often coincide these. Smart men just take them at an independent level. Now comes the decision making situation. To do or not to do?? And its just not the women in his life - the non-sensible specie has meshed it up with career goals, family, personal space, financial obligations, society etc etc. These are one of the million reasons. In the process the worst damage he has caused is to his personal life with respect to the "love" component. The 1st priority has taken a beating now and stands much low on his wish list. He wants to be there in a relationship without commitment. He aims to be this high-flying bird who can take off anytime he wishes. Unfortunately, he chooses to overlook the fact that he is a human and not a bird. May be the relevance he relates to is - Love is in the air, so let me fly :-)

They say that understanding a women is one of the most complicated and difficult task in the world. Its high time that we stop doing gender discrimination. When we treat women equal to men in all contexts, why discriminate here? Men are equally complicated species too.

The only man capable of making a commitment is the one - who priortises his life in terms of his needs. May be the one who can't is just not meant to be in the respective women's life.